One of my favorite topics continues to be self-deception. I am
constantly looking for ways to identify blind spots so that I may shine the
light of authenticity upon them.
When I do that, I begin to see what I need to do in order to
grow. Growth comes from two important positions. First, our ability to see
things as they really are, and second, our ability to determine if we want to
do something about it. Until we can see it, then there is nothing we can do
about it.
Seeing it though is not enough. We must also be willing to do
something about it. When I discover a blind spot I like to conduct a simple
cost analysis. I begin by asking myself the question, "what will happen if
I don't do anything about this?" This helps me imagine all the possible
scenarios and outcomes.
Then I like to think about what it will take to grow? How hard
will it be? What do I need to do? Where do I start? How will I benefit, and how
will those around me benefit if do this?
As I ask myself these questions, I begin to realize the
importance of developing myself in the particular area. If there are no
compelling reasons to grow, then I have discovered a non-fatal flaw. If I
discover compelling reasons to grow, then I must create a development plan or
suffer the consequences of my continued lack of awareness.
Before I do anything I like to find out what those around me
think. They are more likely to see the blind spot than I am. I generally ask
four or five trusted people who are in position to witness my behavior if they
are able to see what I think I am seeing. If they are seeing the same thing,
then I know I am on to something.
How do you identify your blind spots? What actions do you take
to develop those behaviors and competencies? These are just a couple of
questions you can ask yourself to begin to see your areas of self-deception.
See you on the road!
Andrew Thorn
760-559-3548
athorn@telioscorp.com
