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You Complete Me!

I can't believe it, but in a couple of days we will celebrate another Valentine's day. This will be the 21st that Stacy and I will celebrate together. I must admit, that when we first married, I did not understand that this day would be one that we would perpetually celebrate. In fact, I thought that since we had made the big commitment, I never needed to worry about it again. Boy was I wrong.

Our first Valentine's day together came nearly six months after we were married. I didn't create anything to celebrate the experience. No flowers, no dinner, not even a card. In my mind, I had already won the love of my beautiful wife, so I didn't think I needed any help from Cupid. 

Two Dozen Roses

I will never forget the sick feeling I had in my stomach when I realized how badly I had hurt my wife. I was innocently ignorant, but I had significantly neglected the woman I love and adore. She never said a thing about it. She didn't have to. I picked up on the cues. She was not angry, she was disappointed. Oh, how that stung to have been the cause of her sorrow.

Now, in addition to whatever else I might do for her on that magical day, I have been sure to bring home two dozen roses. One dozen is for the current year, and one for the year I forgot. I want her to know that I always remember her and that I always want her to be my Valentine.

Love Fulfills and Completes

Since that time, I have begun to understand that love, true love, the kind of love that never tires, is not sustained by the things we buy for the love of our life. We just can't go around buying anything and everything the heart and mind of the one we love desires. Even if we had enough money to do so, it would never truly be possible to completely satisfy our love in that way, because there would always be another need. Fulfillment would be impossible.

The intimate relationships that are formed by true love are meant to be completing relationships. They become full when we learn how to lift, inspire and support each other. The material gifts we give remind us of our love, but they can never be enough. The real gift, is the act of becoming one. In order to do so, we must be tuned in enough to know what the love our life needs. We must always be listening for the cues, both verbalized and unverbalized, that require our action.

I Treasure You!

If you truly want to treasure your love, then you must be willing to make loving the most important aspect of your life. You can only take love to the next level by putting it first every single day. Stacy and I will soon celebrate 22 years of marriage. I can honestly say that I love her now more than ever, that she is more beautiful right now than she has ever been, and that I respect her now more than ever before.

The amazing thing to me, is that I realize that tomorrow I will feel for her even more strongly and I will look back and consider my love of today immature. My love is going to keep on growing, because I am going to continue to treasure her and see her for all of her potential. I am aware that doing so takes work, but it is worth it.

Here are some questions that I use to help me stay on track:

Am I stopping to look at the one I love in the eyes when we are speaking to each other?

Do I hear and respond to the simple requests that are not necessarily directed at me? 

Do the words I use denote appreciation, adoration and admiration?

Let me assure you, there are many days when doing the dishes or taking out the trash is more meaningful than having a dozen roses delivered. A kind word,a smile, a tender embrace, a small act of service, a compliment, or grateful recognition of the many things done on my behalf, are gifts that I can give every day. They are the signs of my love. They give the words meaning and power. Happy Valentine's day Stacy – You Complete Me!

Live Today! Love Today!

Andrew Thorn

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