We are nearing the end of the school year here in California. It is an exciting time. Many of the end of school year activities are now being planned. The biggest of all of course is graduation, but not far behind is Prom. Our 17 year old son is currently looking for a Prom date. Somebody asked the girl he wanted to go with before he had a chance and so now he is looking for another girl to ask. I am particularly nervous for him because I was unable to find a Prom date of my own when I was in High School. Stacy, had lots of options and so she is quite confident he will find somebody to go with.
Exciting Times
The Prom is an exciting time. It is a scheduled event and something that everybody looks forward to, so there is a lot of hoopla around it. The guys often rent tuxedos and the girls get new dresses and everybody looks sharp.
I didn't go, and Stacy did. Obviously, that did not hurt my chances of getting married and Stacy did not marry the young man, with whom she went to Prom. But it seemed so important at the time for both of us and we both spent a lot of energy on it. Now, it seems almost irrelevant.
Here's A Thought
This got me to thinking; we spent so much energy over someone who now plays no role in our lives and over something that seems no where near as important as it did at the time. Why don't we plan something like this to celebrate who we are together. Since our wedding, Stacy and I have had a few opportunities to get all dressed up in a tuxedo and a fancy dress. When we have, it has usually been to attend some boring event that we went to out of duty and not from our own desire, like the Prom.
The Prom was exciting and now we find ourselves in the middle of raising 7 children. Life is not always exciting. In fact it can be quite hectic. But we control our own life and we can make it what we want. We just have to be willing to plan. Nobody is going to plan for us. We need to make the time to be together.
It is actually very simple to do. We did it at the beginning of this year. We planned events throughout the year that are important to us. Some of those events are date nights where we will go out on our own or with friends and others involve our children. So far, we are sticking to our plan. I noticed though, that we did not plan any big events. Nothing like a Prom that is. So I wondered, why not? I think we can get enough of our friends together to do something fun and formal. Something where we really get excited about getting all dressed up and where we anticipate being together for the night in a dream like event.
I know we can do this, if we want. It will take a little energy and we will need to involve our friends. There is so much going on that keeps us busy. It can be difficult to remember how important it is to nurture our own relationship. The kids can get all the attention which leaves our relationship feeling a little flat. I love the thought of being spontaneous, but I also love the thought of purposefully planning an event to be together. It helps renew our commitment to each other and keeps us focused on being the best we can for each other.
I Am Going To Do It
I will let you know how it goes. I am not going to do this as a surprise. I am going to plan it with Stacy and make an event out of it. If you are close enough to us and would like to attend, let me know. We will make sure you get invited.
What are you doing to nurture your relationship? How long has it been since you made your husband or wife feel special? What are you willing to do to make him or her feel special this year? It is important that you do something. Think about it and then act on what comes into your mind. It will make your relationship, that much more special.
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