Control, is the biggest illusion we embrace in this life. There are so many times when we think we have it, only to discover that we never really did. I call the moments when I discover that I don't have it, "defining moments", because the way I deal with this discovery determines whether or not I live a life of peace and love.
Acceptance
You and I will never attain the control that we think we need to survive. I don't think that means that we must not strive for it, because the quest for becoming our best certainly means that we will learn to control the things that really pertain to us. To be our best, we must also learn to let go of the things that do not pertain to us.
Sadly, we often put too much value on the things that hardly even matter. We create stories around our circumstances to make them more important than they really are, and then when things don't go exactly the way we dreamed they would we feel like we somehow have been ripped off. The rug is hard to pull out from under those who are not attached to the rug.
Life is both very long and very short.
It is long when we allow the things we can't control to consume us.
It is short, when we allow ourselves to extend our love to others. When we do that, no moment ever lasts long enough.
I find it funny, that the same people we love are almost always responsible for bringing us the things we can't control. The nature of this dichotomy is what makes it difficult for us to accept and let go. It is easy to love someone enough to want the best for them, but it is quite another to love them enough to allow them to make their own choices and suffer the consequences.
For some reason, we think that if we hold on, we will spare them the pain. It can never work that way. Pain and pleasure come from exercising our individual right of agency. If someone could actually prevent us from feeling the pain, they would also be preventing us from feeling the pleasure, because there is no way to feel one without the other. There just wouldn't be any way of comparing and contrasting how we feel.
Being Here
You and I are here. We often encumber ourselves with that false belief that we can control the universe. The truth is, we are only a mere part of the great whole. We become our best when we let go and surrender ourselves to the whole. Some of this may not make sense to you, and that is because I am still trying to make sense of it all myself. I am writing to help me see things as they really are – I am not there yet.
The awareness I seek will require me to face my fears and doubts with open arms. I have opened my clenched fist many times and discovered that what I thought I had, was never really there to begin with. It was only an illusion that I manufactured to feel safe and successful. The most amazing discovery is the realization that letting go leads to moments of gain not loss. My open arms make it possible to receive something new. Today I open them wide. I can't wait to see what comes my way.
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