I often tell my clients that I love them. At first, they are uncomfortable. They do not know how to respond.
Of course, the love that I proclaim is not a romantic love. I speak of the love we feel for life and those that enrich it. This type of love is difficult to express in the work force, and that makes me sad.
It Is Not Always Easy To Say The L-Word
I did not always feel as free to express myself in this way. Some time ago, I found myself working with a very difficult client. Our time together, at least for me, was miserable. I would watch the clock and suffer through every moment waiting for the day to end. I was resentful of the time I spent away from other things and wished that I could find a way out. I secretly hoped that something would come up that would cause a cancellation.
In the middle of one of these challenging days we took a break. As I left to make a few phone calls, I resolved that when we came back I was going to terminate our relationship. I just couldn’t take it any more.
During the break, I thought of how I would tell my client it was over. There did not seem to be an easy way out. Every alternative seemed unprofessional and inappropriate. I could not think of a good way out.
What is My Contribution To The Problem?
I shifted my focus from my client to myself, and asked, “What am I doing to make this happen?” I realized that I did not love my client. In fact I barely liked him. I knew that if I wanted to be effective I would have to start loving my client. I also knew that if I continued to fail in that relationship it would eventually impact other relationships.
The lesson I learned that day positively impacted the work that I do. I decided to love my client. I returned from our break with love in my heart. It wasn’t easy to do, but it made an immediate difference.
I know it sounds corny, but things really did change. We began to work effectively together and eventually, this client became one of my favorites. I became filled with a great desire to give more of myself to help his personal growth and development occur. And it did, at an amazing rate. Another amazing thing happened, my client began to love me too.
Love Today!
We help the people we love. I can assure you that you will not be remembered for the titles our positions you hold. Your legacy will depend on how you help and love others.
Do you love the people you work with? Do you want them to succeed? John Lennon and Paul McCartney were right. If we want to live in a better world, all we need is love. It’s easy – I love you!
Live Today! Love Today!
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