"Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers." Anthony Robbins
I like questions. I like them better than answers. They help me think better. They are the key to my discovery process. The more questions I ask, the more I understand what is going on around me. They help me clarify my life.
They also help me clarify what is going on in the lives of my clients. They keep me from putting too much of my self into my work conversations. They help me see what is going on without my own filter of assumptions. When I ask powerful questions, I am better able to help create growth.
A lot of times I ask questions to which I already know the answer. I do this, because I want to see what other people know without influencing them. I don't want my thoughts to limit their thinking. I just want to know what they think. It helps me understand them better. It helps them become accountable for the work we are doing together.
I named my blog The Authentic Me because I want to share myself openly with you. The name reminds me that this is not my opportunity to preach to you and/or to tell you what to do. I am simply sharing my thoughts with you, hoping that as I make meaning out of them for myself, they will be meaningful for you. I am careful not to be prescriptive. I don't have the answers for you. I just have questions. Yet though my questions, many have claimed to find their own answers. That is valuable.
I have found that when I am really open, there is a possibility that you will be able to see your own circumstances more clearly. Almost every day I get an email from a reader saying that my post of the day was the best one I have written. The person tells me how I have evoked some thought and helped them see things in their own life as they really are. Some have said I must have been following them around to hit it so perfectly. I am thankful to raise my voice in such an inspiring way. It gives me the courage and the desire to push myself even deeper into the pool of authenticity.
Sometimes I am afraid that I will expose myself too much. I often am writing the things of my soul for an unknown and known audience. One of my fears is that if you see me as I really am, you may not like me. I figure that is a small price to pay since the trade-off would be that if I did not share the real me with you and you liked me, you would not really be liking the real me. So I continue on in my journey toward a more authentic me.
I find it to be a very liberating process. I am free to say basically whatever I want as long as it is real. I take the time regularly to define who I really am. It is easier to be the real me. There were times when I was just trying to do what I thought I needed to do to fit in. I found myself behaving in ways that were not consistent with the real me. I allowed myself to be influenced by what I thought the world wanted and those were some of the most unproductive times of my life. The questions I asked myself during those times prompted me to focus again on what I really wanted. Being the real me is one of the foundations of my happiness. It opens me up to give more to others because I am not worried about losing myself. I know who I am and that makes a difference in my life.
I Am Not Looking For Theories
When I ask questions of you, I am not looking for theories. I have studied the theories and I my desire now is to apply them to my life. My questions are meant to invite you to think. I want to know what you are thinking. I want to know how your thoughts might be different than mine. I want to know what you are seeing that I have not yet seen. Your thoughts help me to grow. I find it very valuable when you tell me how you are applying what you ahve learned to your own life. I am writing from a heathy perspective to healthy people. I am not sick and I do not think you are sick. I do think that each of us can be better and I am looking for thoughts that will evoke excellence.
What are the inspiring questions that you ask yourself? Do questions motivate you? How have questions impacted your life? How do questions help you when you find yourself up against a road block? I want to know what you think. Are you willing to share?
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